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Squaring the circle

So I saw another great post on Bodi’s blog where he talked a little about living in Mexico City for a few months over the European winter.

I have loads of questions, but don’t want to spam my assumptions into his comments section. Also apologies if he ever reads this, as I know how annoying assumptions/guesses can be, but I’m going to make a few.

I’m going to assume he chose MC because it is:
1. Warm.
2. Developed enough to not be an exercise in frustration.
3. Big enough that you can daygame or online game with a reasonable number of girls on the streets or online.

I’m going to go an make a massive assumption that it was probably a bit of a lonely experience. That can seem a bit counter intuitive – how can you be lonely in a big city surrounded by people?

An important question to address is – why does loneliness matter if you are just trying to get laid? Well I think social circles (aka groups of friends) provide two benefits. The first is that… they can introduce you to girls and get you laid. The second is that they give you a life that girls want to be a part of (aka fun social activities). I think if you are a keen daygamer or online gamer it is easy to just focus on the first advantage, and accuse the advocate of just wanting to get laid without dealing with any rejection, while completely ignoring the second benefit. I have a feeling that a lot of blokes are more comfortable with a somewhat lonely existence than girls are. When you take a girl out on a first date, and she realizes that all future dates are going to be just you and her, usually alone, that can be off-putting to a lot of women.

Going on my experience of London and a few other big cities, I’m going to assume MC has the same downsides:
1. It is massive, so girls already have their own niche social circles.
2. The cool social activities have a cost to join in with (e.g. social groups at unis where you have to go attend the uni) and take time to build any status within the heiracy. The ones that anyone can join already have a fair few lectcherous blokes.
3. Trying to organize your own group of friends is like trying to herd cats.
4. It takes longer to build social circles in big cities and it is harder to join (decent) existing ones. This is a disadvantage if you are fresh of the boat and only there for a few months.

So what is a partial solution? Go to a small town with a high volume of new arrivals like a tourist town in season, which also has some cool activity based social network where our protagonist can get a role with status quickly (dive town, beach resort, ski resort). That way the arrival gets all the benefits of a cool social network, plus some immediate status. However… these kind of places don’t have big enough populations to have a reasonable number of girls walking around (by themselves) for daygame. And may also not be big enough to provide a cloak of anonymity. So you’re commiting to either the ‘cool life that immpresses newly arrived chicks’ approach to game, or going to a bigger place and choosing daygame.

Is there anyway out of this bind? Maybe not unfortunately. The best thing I can think of at present is to go to a trekking diving town within easy travelling distance of a bigger city. Perhaps the diving town of Taganga which is only 10 minutes drive from the bigger center of Santa Marta? If Santa Marta turns out to be to small I suppose the aspiring daygamer could go to Cartagena, but that would probably mean going and staying down there for a week at a time…

Santa Marta
Santa Marta


Potential Curveballs:
– Conservative Christian local culture means local girls don’t put out much.
– Girls only walk around in groups.
– Santa Marta is still too small to daygame.
– Developing a coke addiction.