What is it?
A semi autobiographical book on the author’s attempt to improve his lovelife using an approach called “daygame”.
– Bhodi actually gets his end away five times in the book. This is a welcome contrast to Death By A Thousand Sluts (DBATS) Part 1 were the author just gets nowhere for the entire length of the story. By the end of that book one I was beginning to suspect that there may be something really wrong with the author that he wasn’t telling the reader. Perhaps he was severely overweight, really bloody ugly, or had some other fatal flaw like being born without ears? As a long time reader or Bhodi’s blog, I couldn’t help but root for him, so it was reassuring to discover that he can get laid and that I wasn’t investing in the story of someone who is just one of those very unfortunate guys.
– There are other characters in the book (his Rock Solid Game flatmates) who Bhodi amusingly takes the mickey out of. Krauser in particular is portrayed as a despicable human being and borderline psychopath.
– The stories about getting laid are incredibly tense, as it is a long time between drinks for the author, and logistics always seem to be tough. The story where he shags an american tourist in the toilets of a hotel is a highlight that is both heroic and ridiculous.
– Bhodi seems to be obsessed with daygame in London, and doesn’t seem to really try any other approaches. Although he does mention going to a Salsa class, which I hope was to make friends rather than just find more girls to hit on, and shags a bird from it, he doesn’t seem to try similar approaches anywhere else, or even analyse why he succeeded there. He also mentions getting a date with a girl while on a “euro-juant” but it doesn’t go anywhere for some reason that I can’t remember. But despite this seeming improvement in odds in this different situation in Europe the author is soon back in London pounding the cold streets. Similarly in DBATS part 1 the author tries approaching in an art gallery, but I think the chick brings a female friend on their “date”. So then Bhodi seems to throw the baby out with the bathwater and give up on this approach. Bhodi obviously had his reasons for giving up on these approaches, but he doesn’t really explain them (or if he did I have forgotten).
– His descriptions of his flatmates are just amusing caricatures, perhaps because Bhodi would feel bad revealing any real details about their lives and who they actually are? But these caricatures become stale pretty quickly. Mocking Steve Jabba for being obsessed with Adwords once is funny. But by the third time Steve is being mocked this way it is like a joke that has been told too many times. A real story (flattering or not) about Steve would have been much more interesting.
– Daygame seems to work for Krauser, but is never that fruitful for Bhodi, and there is never any attempt at analyzing why this is? Is Krauser way better looking that Bhodi? Taller? Is he more confident for some reason? The reader is just left imagining what is going on. Lee and Steve seem to have a lot of success, but this is just chalked up to them being “good looking” and left at that. Not that far back in the days of the London online forum Steve came second in a 12 week long body improvement contest, which had more than a few dedicated gym bunnies in it. Maybe he has gone to seed since then (I doubt it) but the fact that Steve was pretty ripped is never mentioned.
Thoughts/unasked for advice/stupid theory/hopes for part 3:
– I have since seen on Bhodi’s blog some posts saying that he is pretty much done with daygame. He has also since done winter trips to Mexico and Colombia. I don’t think he got laid on either of these trips. But it would be interesting to hear some more analysis of why this was the case?
– I have long advocated a more social approach to game. In DBATS part 1 there was a two page section basically slagging this off! So I think Bhodi has been talked out of this, probably by Krauser, but I’d love hear some more about Colombia, as at least this is trying something different. One thing written in DBATS part one that really grated was (roughly) “in daygame you pick the girls vs ecosystem game the girls pick you”. This is illogical, in either situation a girl has to want to fuck you and so ‘picks’ you back. The whole point of socialising is not so that you don’t have to overcome the awkwardness of running up to a girl on the street, it is because socialising can make you happy and confident, which is what a lot of girls are looking for imho. If Bhodi was a guy with a decent body who was having fun two to three times per week with mates in Colombia, I find it hard to imagine him not getting laid (in this situation Bhodi would still have to talk to girls in bars and at parties etc).
– To be fair being social can be tough, especially if you go to a new country like Argentina, and you aren’t that social in the first place. Personally I’ve always been naturally very social and enjoy life best when hanging out with large groups of friends. My uni experience was very different to the one Bhodi described in DBATS part 1. I was similarly pretty awkward when I got to uni. Being a dyslexic which most kids don’t grow out of until puberty doesn’t exactly set you up for being one of the cool confident kids at high school. But at uni with its options for social growth absent in a small high school everything came right for me and everything was amazingly good fun. Reading Bhodi’s story and reflecting on our divergent experiences I was thinking “is this just shit luck, or do we have very different personalities, or some combination of those two things?”. I really did feel sorry for him reading about his best female friend breaking up with her long term boyfriend then passing on him for some first year. My last couple of years of uni I had some really nice girlfriends, but reading his account perhaps I was closer to disaster than I realized?